Today, March 15th is the anniversary of my accident. It is a day that a lot of folks with spinal cord injuries have a hard time with and we all deal with it in a different way.
The first couple of anniversary dates of my injury really got my family down, and given the day of my accident also corresponded with my oldest sons birthday party, it affected him as well. I think those days could have been some of the darkest of the recovery process so far. With the motivation to help shift my sons perception of his birthday, a new frame of mind evolved...So now we call it "Glad to be alive day".
I'm glad to be alive for so many reasons! I am truly grateful for my family, my wife, my kids and to still be able to see the sun set at the end of each day. I am glad to still be able to use my mind and hopefully be able to help out other folks with similar lives, or just give a different perspective on life.
As I wake up today, it has been four years since I injured myself and the day has become much less of a big deal. Although the memories and grief are still there, will always be there, they have lessened. Life has changed and coping with that can sometimes be overwhelming, adding the emotional component of a day that floods you with traumatic memories which can push those coping skills to the max.
The process of changing a mind set or outlook on life is not an overnight thing, it is hard work on an ongoing basis and I don't believe it is ever truly over. One step at a time, sometimes two steps back but always with the intention of moving forward. If you manifest positive thoughts, then positivity will find you.
I just started calling the anniversary of my injury "Glad to be Alive" day a couple months before my 3rd glad to be alive day. This manifested the positivity and gave the day a different, less dark feeling. Now another year later and my "Glad to be Alive" day is quickly passing by and fading into a distant memory.
Take good care! Freewheeling Forrest.